Experts weigh in on if getting back together with your ex is a good idea — and share the three rules you must follow, if you do decide to go another round.
By Korin Miller
Shakira just announced on her blog that she and her boyfriend of 11 years are taking a break and "view this period of separation as temporary." But admit it: Whenever you hear about a couple planning to get back together, "Yeah, that'll last" often comes to mind. If a relationship ends, it's obvious there were problems, and it's hard to imagine things going any more smoothly the second time. That seems especially true if the split was awful. Shouldn't both people just learn from the experience and move on?
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Not necessarily, say experts. Yes, there may have been issues, but a serious time-out can make a couple stronger in the long run…if those issues are addressed and resolved.
That said, there are certain "rules of the repeat" that can help improve your odds of success in round two.
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Go Slow
It's hard to slam on the brakes when you're making up for lost time, not to mention enjoying being so familiar with each other. But admit it or not, you've both changed and need to take time to get reacquainted.
"Try to look at it as a brand-new relationship," says relationship therapist Bethany Marshall, PhD, author of Deal Breakers. While you might be dying to fast-forward to cozy Saturday mornings in bed, it's important to stop and think about why you want to be together…just like you would while getting close with any guy.
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Should You Get Back Together With Your Ex?
